5 Lessons Through Intergenerational Friendships

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As a younger adult I now have a few older adult friends with a large age gap difference. These relationships came at the right time when we both needed a human friend and fellowship. The friendships just happened without my seeking and took place in a situational type of way.

I’m more open to them now than I was a few years ago when I found them to be a little odd. Who says age matters in friendship? It really doesn’t, we just all have to learn that not everything always has to be in the exact same way when it comes to certain situations. That’s where newness and freshness gives its savor. Below are some highlighted lessons to consider on these unique friendships.

 

1) The quality of friendship is what’s more important. Age difference doesn’t necessarily mean good or bad. It’s what the persons bring in the friendship and how they operate in relationships.

2) There are special qualities that my intergenerational friendships have than those of my peer group and age category . While I’m appreciative of friends of all ages, I do recognize the distinctiveness between the different kinds. These friends have been around much longer and have had more experiences. They bring qualities including double wise advice and sometimes greater perspective.

3) Having a variety of kinds in friendships bring a fun mix and flavor. A positive mix gives a person a chance to evolve in their own way.

4) Sometimes the intergenerational friends have shared experiences and relate in some connecting way. As I talk and spend time with friends of these kinds, I’ve learned that we relate more than I think and can have a wonderful time with our connection. It’s great to have someone who understands and is there for you. Somehow the connection helps both in the friendship.

5) Give the connection a chance, its healthy to have the balance. With certain things we really don’t know if it’s meant to be or can work well unless we give it a chance.

 

  What lessons have you learned through/about intergenerational friendships?

 

 

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5 Ways to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

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Stress and anxiety can have an effect on anyone. It doesn’t matter how optimistic or well intention (these are great practices) we are, our bodies, minds and souls need attention, care  and renewal. Stress and anxiety at high levels interfere in all areas including relationships, performance/efficiency, health, energy/alertness and more.

When I’m at high levels of stress and/or anxiety, I find it difficult to cope and continue on. The wonderful news is that stress and anxiety can be reduced and relieved in how we live in our daily lifestyle.

1) Rest & Relax: When we are buzzing around as if we have a never-ending boost, we soon notice the oncoming burnout breaking through our way. Sometimes a simple lay down can work wonders. Burnout can be experienced at any age or life stage. When enough is enough is just that…. enough!

2) Feed Your Soul: Just like our natural bodies need to be fed to function properly, our souls need nourishment, substance and nurturing. What we feed our souls with matters 100%. The Word of God, devotionals, music, declarations, prayer, meditation and more are ways we can spiritually feed our souls.

3) Leave It Alone!: There are some things we just have to learn to leave alone. I find it difficult to do just that when I just care and think about so much. When we take on what God needs to take on and handle, we find ourselves weighted down. Let’s leave it to the Father.

4) Watch it!: The things we need to watch and look for are very important in our growth, development and stability. What are we putting in? What is coming out? If it doesn’t belong, we simply just need to be more careful and attentive.

5) Take Your Time!: My generation of young adults and the young children and teens behind us are used to quickness and speed. Things don’t just always come right away and they don’t just appear out of nowhere. All of us in any life stage needs to take our time in every way.

What are some ways you reduce stress and anxiety?

5 Lessons On Friendship

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Friendship is a form of love, acceptance and unity that most want to experience. Having real, close and meaningful friendships has never been easy or smooth for me, but there have been some lessons that I have learned from friendship. Below are a few highlights to consider.

1) Friendships are not limited to human connections. They can be developed with an animal(pet) or even a passion for something that matters to you.

2) It takes time, patience and effort to build healthy, close and meaningful friendships.

3) Sometimes friendships can come in unexpected circumstances with unexpected people.

4) Not all friendships are meant to be close, but through them can come messages of hope.

5) Good quality and real friendships are not perfect, they just learn to grow beyond the surface.