Adjusting to Change

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Whew! These last few weeks and months have had sudden changes with me and things I’m involved with. Many of these changes has challenged me and reminded me once again that I’m not in control and never was meant to be in control of how my life should go and how things concerning me should go.

All these changes that recently took place were beyond my control, which sometimes tempted me to become hasty and impatient. Some things that happened was from a change that was forced on me with no previous notice at my first Resilient book event to an allergic reaction form prescribed medication from the doctor that developed a rash on my body and my throat tightening. Below are some points to consider on adjusting to change.

 

1) Outward unpleasant changes are meant to bring a pleasant change on the inside of us. As an author I know that if I have done my part and followed up in advance with the other experienced adult person who was supposed to do their part or at least contact me in advance if they couldn’t – then I need to not internalize the situation and just use it to cause me to respond in a calm, peaceful and merciful way. And to remember there are times I’ve messed up and yet God doesn’t push me away and say it’s over with you.

 

2) God knows that it will happen and has something already worked out for good. What was changed beyond my control at the first Resilient book event has worked out for something better for a future event. God knew all along! I love how He’s just got me and everything concerning me like He does. 🙂

 

3) Nothing  will always go perfect, there’s a least something that could happen. It’s an opportunity to bring improvements into the picture next time around. The only way for something to go better next time is through things not going the way it could have.

 

4) Change can later on channel us to something that we can cherish. Most times later on we can see how the changes were really good for us and led to greater things.

 

What ways do you adjust to change? How has change helped you along the way?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Lessons Through Intergenerational Friendships

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As a younger adult I now have a few older adult friends with a large age gap difference. These relationships came at the right time when we both needed a human friend and fellowship. The friendships just happened without my seeking and took place in a situational type of way.

I’m more open to them now than I was a few years ago when I found them to be a little odd. Who says age matters in friendship? It really doesn’t, we just all have to learn that not everything always has to be in the exact same way when it comes to certain situations. That’s where newness and freshness gives its savor. Below are some highlighted lessons to consider on these unique friendships.

 

1) The quality of friendship is what’s more important. Age difference doesn’t necessarily mean good or bad. It’s what the persons bring in the friendship and how they operate in relationships.

2) There are special qualities that my intergenerational friendships have than those of my peer group and age category . While I’m appreciative of friends of all ages, I do recognize the distinctiveness between the different kinds. These friends have been around much longer and have had more experiences. They bring qualities including double wise advice and sometimes greater perspective.

3) Having a variety of kinds in friendships bring a fun mix and flavor. A positive mix gives a person a chance to evolve in their own way.

4) Sometimes the intergenerational friends have shared experiences and relate in some connecting way. As I talk and spend time with friends of these kinds, I’ve learned that we relate more than I think and can have a wonderful time with our connection. It’s great to have someone who understands and is there for you. Somehow the connection helps both in the friendship.

5) Give the connection a chance, its healthy to have the balance. With certain things we really don’t know if it’s meant to be or can work well unless we give it a chance.

 

  What lessons have you learned through/about intergenerational friendships?

 

 

5 Lessons From Health

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I’m no expert and neither am I a perfect example in health, but our health covers many areas and parts of our lives. Physical, spiritual, emotional and relational aspects all need our attention, effort and care. When we make an effort to practice healthier habits and choices for our minds, bodies and spirit we begin and continue on the journey of wholeness. Below are some highlighted points to consider about health.

 

1) Our health is not about being perfect in everything we do, but making better choices when we learn to and know better to. As human beings we will mess up  in one area or another concerning all aspects of health, but it’s not too late or too bad to make a better choice the next time around.

 

2) Discipline is developed over time and with persistence. This doesn’t necessarily mean if you are having difficulty or lack of discipline that you should give up or that you’re not able to do it. You may just need to balance it out and find different ways to have good health in various areas.

 

3) Having a lifestyle that works on being healthier is for everyone. Waiting to something goes wrong or to a later time will keep us always pushing it back and can lead to negative consequences later on.

 

4) Little makes much difference! When we take at least small efforts that may grow later on, we keep on moving in our journey to living  an effective life that operates in wellness, calling and purpose.

 

5) There will always be room for improvement concerning health. As we grow, learn, make mistakes and even sometimes do the wrong thing ,that shows us that we have space for improving.

 

The Gifts In Longsuffering

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Can you recall something you had to deal with for a long time? Maybe you thought it would take less time or it wouldn’t go the way it went. What about the times when we think we get through something only to find ourselves going through it for an extended period.

Think about receiving gifts during your longsuffering? Can you? How can there be gifts in suffering for a long time? Well you see it’s all in our perspective and the way we choose to live our lives. Below are some points to consider on the gifts in longsuffering.

 

1) Love Developed In Us: Most if not all, don’t like going through something difficult, unpleasant and opposing for a long time. We would take the relief as soon as it could come and hope it comes as fast as it could. Love is a gift that needs to be developed in us and displayed through us in longsuffering. When we can suffer and endure something that God has allowed for us to bear for a long time in the right attitude and perception, we can walk out and live out the love that God wants us to operate in.

 

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2) Fruit Growing In Us: As believers we are called to bear fruit and walk in the Spirit of God and to be led by the Holy Spirit. God dwells in every Christ follower and bearing fruit is the evidence that we are growing in the Lord. Longsuffering is a fruit of the Spirit. Some may question, how can suffering for a long time bring out something good in us? When we are yielded to the Lord, longsuffering will help bring forth patience and self- control in our behavior, actions, interactions and other areas in our lifestyles.

 

 

3) Living In Forgiveness: Just as Christ is longsuffering towards us in our mess and sin,  as  Christ followers we must learn to be longsuffering towards others. Forgiveness is really freedom for our minds, hearts and souls.

 

4) Humbling Ourselves: When we humble ourselves in suffering for a long time, God can raise us up at the right time. We must let go of our will to have a smoother path in life and to attempt to avoid adversity. For every believer, the suffering we face in this world will be wiped away one day.

 

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5 Lessons From Gratitude

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Gratitude is  thankfulness from the heart. It’s a choice to give thanks and praise no matter what is going on or not going on. There is much to learn and experience through thanksgiving. Below are some highlights to consider on gratitude.

1) Gratitude gives a refreshing boost of energy. Have you ever thought of something that you were thankful for and it poured a fresh supply of inspiration, motivation and illumination? It’s nothing like a pour of innovation.

2) Changes your perspective. You move from a place of devastation to a place of opportunity and vision. What’s important becomes your focus.

3) Enlightens in the midst of darkness. There are times where all we see is pain, negativity and frustration. Then acts of gratitude brings knowledge and insight to the circumstances.

4) Changes the atmosphere. That doesn’t mean everything becomes perfect and spectacular. Thankfulness brings the presence of calmness and serenity.

5)  Gratefulness recognizes that even the little victories play a part in the bigger picture. Little things can have a big importance in development.

5 Ways to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

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Stress and anxiety can have an effect on anyone. It doesn’t matter how optimistic or well intention (these are great practices) we are, our bodies, minds and souls need attention, care  and renewal. Stress and anxiety at high levels interfere in all areas including relationships, performance/efficiency, health, energy/alertness and more.

When I’m at high levels of stress and/or anxiety, I find it difficult to cope and continue on. The wonderful news is that stress and anxiety can be reduced and relieved in how we live in our daily lifestyle.

1) Rest & Relax: When we are buzzing around as if we have a never-ending boost, we soon notice the oncoming burnout breaking through our way. Sometimes a simple lay down can work wonders. Burnout can be experienced at any age or life stage. When enough is enough is just that…. enough!

2) Feed Your Soul: Just like our natural bodies need to be fed to function properly, our souls need nourishment, substance and nurturing. What we feed our souls with matters 100%. The Word of God, devotionals, music, declarations, prayer, meditation and more are ways we can spiritually feed our souls.

3) Leave It Alone!: There are some things we just have to learn to leave alone. I find it difficult to do just that when I just care and think about so much. When we take on what God needs to take on and handle, we find ourselves weighted down. Let’s leave it to the Father.

4) Watch it!: The things we need to watch and look for are very important in our growth, development and stability. What are we putting in? What is coming out? If it doesn’t belong, we simply just need to be more careful and attentive.

5) Take Your Time!: My generation of young adults and the young children and teens behind us are used to quickness and speed. Things don’t just always come right away and they don’t just appear out of nowhere. All of us in any life stage needs to take our time in every way.

What are some ways you reduce stress and anxiety?

5 Skin Care Reminders

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Ever felt like there’s something missing from your skin health? Skin care is just as important as any other part of our health. All skin shades are beautiful and deserve the attention it needs. I’m no expert but here are some tip reminders on improving on taking care of our skin.

 

 

  • Drink More Water: I’m guilty! I don’t drink the amount of water as I should. There’s something about having a sweet tooth. Water is essential for healthy skin care. It leaves the skin looking clearer.

 

  • Keep it moisturized: Natural skin products like olive oil and more are available at various pharmacies and stores. When skin is moisturized it definitely looks and feels healthier.
  • Wear Sun Screen: During the summer and warmer months it gets hotter and our skin needs to be protected. A great way to protect the skin is by using a suitable sunscreen.
  • Include Vitamin D in Diet: Vitamin D is known to help the skin to be healthy.
  • Consuming Healthy Foods: Eating healthy foods is good for every part of our health including our skin. Fruits and vegetables are an important factor in consuming healthy foods.

What are some skin care products that work for you? How do you maintain the care of your skin?

Building Balance

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Balance…not too little and not too much. That place where it’s just right. Life gets messy, chaotic and unbalanced. Things get out of control. We want balance and need it very much, but how do we maintain it in every aspect and area of life? What to apply and not to apply? When to say yes and when to say no? When to take action and when to be still? What keeps everything together? What is balance to you? What is balance to me? Is it possible to maintain it every time? Maybe balance is all about surrender. Balance and surrender seem to go together. One area neglected or not properly handled can sometimes cause other things to come to crash or disaster.

Surrendering everything to the Lord will put balance where it needs to be. How do you find balance in a fast paced world? What do you do when you feel out of balance?